We hardly talk and if we do, we probably just say a couple words. She couldn’t have expected a normal kid graduating college on time and everything if she knew you grew up with something missing. life has been better since he has stepped out of my life and i am thankful to God for it. I got graduation in engineering. 1. I'm writing as a young adult who has known his dad for most of his life. I wouldn't say I'm afraid of them but intimidated sounds right. Always stay positive. Why would I want him there, then or even now, when he was never there for me. We got up and left. You haven’t robbed your mother of anything. My dad was mean to my mom and she took my older brother and left my dad ( I wasn't born yet) and she found out that she was pregnant with me and didn't want me growing up without father so she went back to him and he was still mean and when I was almost three years old she took me and my brother and went to live with my nana and I wasn't a happy child and i was bullied in school and I still am me and my brother fight all the time and he likes are dad for some reason, I hate my dad I have four brother's and one sister by my dad and one brother by my mom, I grew up with two older brothers and with a single mother. I have only one good memory of my father. I think growing up without a father as permanently damage my brain i feel useless unloved and everybody hates me............. but the biggest effect is my sexual oriantation because this effect leads me to become a gay. What happens when a little girl is raised without her father? I gre up withput father or brothers and im female. The world needs good, honest, supportive people, not people like me. After 2 years of waiting i texted him. Why? 1. I can seek comfort by him and i can cry and talk to him without any judgement or pitty.. Its hard for me to understand how any child feels without one of their parents for any reason, I'm lucky to have had both of mine growing up, and it's great that some REAL MEN will stand up and be the father figure to another's children, but what if any can be the psychological effects to the child not building a bond with their biological parent, providing said parent wants a relationship with their child but is stopped by an EX or the courts, distance.... (although if you love you child no distance is too far for you to be a loving supportive parent) could bringing a step 'father/mother' into a relationship that has a child/children with another effect their emotional and mental wellbeing? I had to be successful. As an adult, I think that what really impacted me wasn't just the fatherless upbringing, but also the fatc that my mother wasn't really a supportive parent. But I think it's still relevant because I feel like I'm missing key traits that a father usually gives. I grew up fatherless, and have fought to make sure my son has kept his. Zealous on even small kids who have fathers. So, my brothers cant understand that I have to deal with some childhood trauma just like they, that I had to grow up fatherless and with a habit to be overprotective, because I had watched my brothers get abused and I was too weak to help them. My story started being separated from my father when I was only two months old due to my father migrating to the United States. But my life changed when I truly listened to the gospel and decided to trust God: I would like to encourage all of you young men, life makes no sense sometimes but always remember that GOD has a plan for you and that he loves you. I only have a couple people to turn to, but they are now busy with their own lives. I have never had an adult conversation with my father. So plz approve this i need emotional support ): i talk about my dad i cry and i cant help to think why should not, just kill myself cause my mother is in Sc and my dads in Airzona. My mom raised me, my sister, and my brother by herself. Yet, this negative energy tend to take me over. I could not give you the slightest idea why I would. Well to start off this comment, my dad was sent to prison for drug dealing once when I was four and again when I was 11. If he commit iniquity, I will chasten him with the rod of men, and with the stripes of the children of men: But my mercy shall not depart away from him, as I took it from Saul, whom I put away before thee. Lots of variables and scenarios come into play when statistics are compiled. My dad died when i was 4 due to him being alcoholic. My dad's face replaces the faces of every handsome face that I see, they become cruel, heartless monsters with no regard to the feelings and emotions of others, faces that could never love me. I certainly don't want my son to be fatherless and after reading articles like this and comments of fatherless now-adults I'm even more worried about it, but I'm also having serious doubts that having someone in his life that is so obviously uninterested in my son's welfare and long-term interpretations of fatherhood and childhood is healthy. I was born with both of my parents there for me and years later my dad cheated on my mom and left for a better family he was in my life for a few years after the fact until he shut me out. I’ve not had any success in finding one and even though I am grown I still feel the emptiness of not knowing one or what it would feel like to know one and be disciplined by him. Now I'm a father. Reading your article has me thinking about my nephew, and praying about what I could do to be a positive element in his life. I have faced too all the problems that we discuss here. From my own experience I know that children who grow up fatherless are at a much greater risk for depression and, unfortunately, suicide. My father has been in jail most of my life. Men break our hearts, disrespect us and leave us to raise children, do we really need men in our lives? But thanks for reading this... And if its of any help for youngh people always try and make the best of youre life every opportunity you get RUN JUMP AND GRAB A HOLD! Silent anger doesn't have a proper release valve, it just builds up like a growing monster, maturing right along with you. They will always have your back when you need them. I know where he is. Their advices hurt me, 4. I do not know my father very well, I do not know his favorite food, than with their own particular wedded father and mother) have essentially higher rates of trouble with all levels of instruction, from pre-kindergarten through to essential, optional, and school age levels. Having that experience...growing up without the often physical and also emotional absence of my parents...gave me no other choice but to distance myself...respectfully...leaving them all far behind...to create a life so different from my upbringing. I have had a father when I was very young, like up till I was 8 or so. Kids dont understand relationships or where the next buck is coming from. Because he can take care of my older sister and brother but not of me. I feel I kind of dodged a bullet there and we've remained friendly and I have done my best to foster a healthy relationship between them. Really painful. Growing up without a father makes people make unreasonable decisions that are of rage. His mother has no intentions to ever leave her parents (she is 37) and give him the appropriate family life of a loving mother and father that he deserves. Now I've limited contact lately and I'm not making all of the effort to be sure it's too easy for dad to blow it off - bc there does not seem to be a way to make it easy enough for him. We may build a healthy relationship and even hang out. So, while many cant understand this, but Friends, for me, are more important than Family. The cops said it wasn’t rape but hey, it was the 80s and I wouldn’t put it past him. He has made me terrified of men because he used to hit me for doing very little wrong such as spilling a drink. This is a hard subject for me to discuss because it forces me to recall very dark times in my life. I know this pain, I have lived with it all my life. During elementary school, children from non-intact families scored consistently lower on reading comprehension and math, and had, heart. I stardet drinking at a really young age, had older friends and tried drugs. When i saw him i saw him beating the woman i carried close to my heart my mother.. I have looked for a father figure for years. My son is now nearly 5 months old and I've never spent a single overnight with him. I am a woman who had a father but lost him in a moment when I was 9 yrs old because he sexually molested me. I saw my dad once in my entire life and he was a good man he loved me so much just for that week but my hate and anger towards my dad would never subside.. 3 kids and 2 lovers that never actually loved. I feel something in my life is missing. Tears are coming now. My mom didn’t care that he hit me and said I deserved it. I try to stay positive and am hopeful for a better future. So, there's a huge chance that I'd close the vicious circle, and I don't want that.